WORD OF ADVICE… Or three of them…
1) If you’re looking to adopt/get a new pet, read EVERYTHING that is written to you in a reply.
2) Be patient. Do not send text after text, or call again and again, if the person doesn’t reply in five minutes. Or if they do reply, don’t repeat yourself over and over. It very rarely changes someone’s mind or makes them rush
3) Be polite. Don’t assume thing, don’t harass the person, if they turn you away don’t get angry, etc.
I’ve had this happen A LOT. People who contact me and when I reply they don’t read what I wrote and so I find myself repeating things over and over again. Due to this I finally wrote in all caps at the top of every single ad “Read everything in this ad up to “this” category. If you do not I will redirect you back to this ad. This is simply to avoid going over information that has already been covered. Thank you for understanding.” — in other words, but that’s what I write in brief.
I also get people who text me over and over and over again, and then start calling time and time again as well. If you read my ad you’ll see it says I have very few minutes so only talk on the phone for emergencies. If I can’t financially afford anything extra on my phone bill I’m not going to go over my minutes. For those who never have, it costs A LOT when you go over, even by just a few minutes.
Then there’s the rude people. Oh, how I get a lot of these. People are crazy. Not everyone of course but there’s a high percentage of people who are unfortunately. People will become angry with me because I tell them they don’t qualify for a specific animal. Sadly, a lot of people will ask why, I’ll explain, and they’ll suddenly change their answer. I’m sorry, but why lie at that point? It’s extremely obvious that it’s a lie since before you knew the answer you had replied differently. Those that lie, I won’t adopt to whatsoever. Before I’ll suggest animals that fit, if the one you’re interested in isn’t a fit. But again, I don’t deal with liars. I don’t like liars in my life in any shape or form - close to me or not.
For those that get angry for being denied, think about this. YOU SHOULD NOT GET AN ANIMAL IF YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT ITS WELL BEING AND HAPPINESS. If you’re getting an animal because you’re bored, because you’re lonely, or “just because”, then DON’T. Just don’t get one. IF YOU DON’T CARE IF THE ANIMAL’S PERSONALITY IS WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR, OR IF THE ANIMAL WOULD BE MISERABLE WITH YOUR LIFESTYLE, DO NOT GET ANY ANIMAL WHATSOEVER. You obviously are NOT an animal lover and even worse than that, you really obviously don’t care about the animal at all if you could care less if it would be unhappy.
I often get the question “how would you know if the animal would be happy here or not?”. I’m sorry to come off blunt but, really? Maybe because I’ve owned the animal for at least a couple of months and have tested its personality in different situations. I know from first hand experience how the animal is. If I host BBQs at my house with a group of friends at least once a month and know the particular cat hides every time there’s a large group of people and loud music, then I can say with certainty that the particular cat would be miserable in your home where you just admitted you throw parties every other weekend. Or if you work nine hours a day, Monday thru Friday and you have no other animals, then I can say with certainty that the particular cat you’re asking for would be miserable and lonely, considering it’s a cat that is constantly by a human’s side and constantly looking to play - with other cats or humans, and cries when no one (animal or human) pays attention to it within an hour. Again, I KNOW THESE ANIMALS. And also I DON’T TURN PEOPLE AWAY TO BE MEAN OR TO MAKE YOU ANGRY. I turn people away for the best interest of the animals. I am far more concerned about their happiness than finding them homes elsewhere. I am perfectly content having the animals live here for the rest of their lives. I would much prefer that over giving it to someone who will abandon it outdoors, give it away, or put it in a shelter (because sadly very few people return the animals for whatever strange reason, that I will never understand..). IF THE ANIMAL ISN’T WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR, YOU WILL GET RID OF IT. Why bother making it change homes and also pass up on its true forever home? It’s totally pointless.
So, please, if you’re planning to get an animal from my rescue or from another rescue, please remember those three things. Honestly, we don’t deny people to be mean. We do it for the animal but also for you. It makes absolutely no sense at all to place together two creatures who won’t get along. That’s like putting you on a blind date with someone who your friend knows you’ll get irritated with quick. How do they know that? Oh, because they’ve known you and this other person for a year. Well, it’s the same with rescues and the animals in them.
Now I do agree 500% there are some rescues with completely crazy requirements. I tried to get a Swiss Shepherd from a GSD rescue. Their requirements? I believe the list went into the 40’s or 50’s, and no I’m not lying. One of my mom’s co-workers tried going through the same rescue as well. Some of the requirements were no kids under 13, no dogs of the same sex, must provide recent proof of vaccines for all dogs and cats, must have 6 foot wall, and on and on and on it went. It was totally insane. A woman had written a review saying for a month she spoke with the people, have the dog picked out, visited him, and more. It was the day before she was to get the dog and they came to do their final home visit and someone decided to measure her wall. It was five inches below 6 feet. She was told get a new wall or she couldn’t have the dog. Now that’s insane! And I get there’s a greater risk with two dogs of the same sex, that those of opposite, but that rule generally applies for two dogs that aren’t fixed. I know it doesn’t only apply to them, but my entire life I’ve owned two dogs of the same gender. I think once we had a male and female, but only once. Not once did I ever encounter a single issue with two fixed dogs of the same gender. It’s all about them being introduced properly and making sure they do well together before finalizing the adoption.
But don’t use this advice only when getting an animal, use it always. People need to remember how to be respectful, polite, patient, and understanding.